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On Not Comparing Oneself with Others
To quote from the last newsletter in December:
“The key idea with this is that if we devote our energy and effort to
excelling at the process of what we are doing, the end results will
take care of themselves. By easing into the natural movement of the
process we can let go of the result, and in doing so, accomplish our
goals without thinking about them.”
I have heard from several people recently who independently
mentioned that they were doing quite well applying this until they
started comparing themselves with someone else. In other words they
could stay focused as long as they internally followed the process, but
when they started to compare themselves with someone else their focus
fell apart.
The solution is relatively simple:
DON’T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHER PEOPLE.
Every person has different strengths and abilities. A task (be it
painting, accounting, running, solving business problems, etc.) that
may be easy for one person might be very difficult for someone else.
But it doesn’t matter, because we each bring different strengths that
are necessary for the health of our society. Furthermore, we can
develop our own abilities in a way that is authentic to us, and in
doing so excel at what we do.
It is healthy to take inspiration from those who have excelled at
something. However, if we mistakenly see someone else’s strength as
evidence of our own shortcomings, we may feel discouraged instead of
inspired.
Say, for example, that your goal was to make your body stronger and
healthier. It may be that someone you talked to said that they could do
500 pushups. You may say to yourself, “I could never do that.” So how
does that affect your goal? Not at all. If you exercised a small amount
every day, entering into the process and seeing where it carried you, I
guarantee that you would become progressively stronger in a relatively
short time, in a way that was suited totally to you.
What someone else can or can’t do is not relevant to accomplishing
your goals - what you do is. Trust yourself and let the results take
care of themselves.
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